The best love story for our modern times

Since its debut in the fall of 2011, I have been enamored with the ABC television series Once Upon A Time. That year was a time of personal transition and the show beautifully helped me through the difficulties I encountered.

In the pilot, we are introduced to our hero Emma Swan who appears in a doorway wearing a stunning red dress.

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It’s okay to not be friends with your ex-partner

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I was prepared to write my own content on this subject, until I found the image I would use to go along with it on Bustle.

Writer Lea Rose Emery did a great job laying out the reasons, so I will simply list them here and you can follow the link if you want to read the full article.

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In some other life

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I don’t want to hurt him,

But I have to let him go.

His heart’s not mine to keep.

His path is not mine to follow.

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Transactional Relationships – some personal anecdotes

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I want to help,” he said handing over a stack of cash. “But I don’t want to get involved.” 

I can think of no better example of unconditional love – giving with the only expectation that the gift be used for good and the betterment of one’s current situation. In this example, he wasn’t expecting any sort of favor or a more-intimate relationship. He didn’t give explicit direction on how to spend it. He gave the gift freely without strings attached – only that he wants my life to get better. This is the exact opposite of transactional love.

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Please consider supporting the YWCA of Cass Clay

It’s my birthday month and I have many goals, hopes, and wishes. One of those is to drum up support for the YWCA Cass Clay. This nonprofit is near and dear to my heart. The staff and volunteers give so much of themselves to create a compassionate, caring, and healing environment for vulnerable women and children in my community. Please consider making a contribution to my fundraiser for the YWCA – every bit helps ❤

Click on the image below to donate!

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Coming Soon: “Transactional Love”

Transactional Relationships

Love comes in many forms. Author C.S. Lewis wrote about the “four loves” he learned of via his study of Greek wisdom – storge, philia, eros, and agape. Love can also be expressed in a variety of ways. Gary Chapman wrote about this in his best-selling book “The Five Love Languages.” But this post is not about the “four loves.” Nor is it about the expression of love This entry is about the bastardization of love – also known as “transactional love.”

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Let love be stronger

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archangelmichael-e1265172023723-394x510.jpgHere’s a thought for today that was inspired by someone I met the winter of 2016 while working at a homeless shelter in the Fargo-Moorhead Community.

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Feelings can get you

August 5, 2018 @ 2:16 a.m.

It’s awful the way feelings can get you. A person could go about life just fine without them. Some folks do it for days or weeks at a time. Others can manage to pull that trick for months or even years. But eventually, those feelings will catch up to you. It’s the good ones that find a way to crack the shell of numbness – that safe barrier between yourself and genuine emotions. But once they get through the door, all the other feelings come flooding in too.

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Trust Levels in the Real World Part Two – Shall We Dance?

To reach a level three on the Trust Level tree, you must find some task or activity that either one or neither of you enjoys. At the friendship level of trust, you do things with the other person (or persons) not because you enjoy that particular activity, but because you enjoy their company. Building a fence might be an example – but only if at least one party dislikes building fences. If you both enjoy building fences, then that is still a level two (companions) activity.

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