The difference between a rapist and a victim

There are many differences between “victims” and their rapists.

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If you only know one thing about sexual assault – know this!

At one point or another, most of us will be affected by sexual assault in some way. Some will become momentary “victims” who move into becoming a “survivor” with the grace of time, love, and support. Others will have a friend, family member, or romantic partner who has been victimized – these people are known as “secondary survivors.” Many sexual assault crisis centers across the United States provide free counseling and advocacy services to primary survivors and some also provide services to these secondary survivors who have their own unique issues and needs separate from that of the primary survivor.

While this is all valuable information to support survivors and their loved ones in the weeks and months after an assault, there is one critical step that can save lives if taken within days after an attack – a rape examination.

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Eleven Celebrities Who Have Spoken Out About Sexual Assault

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Melissa Lucio

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The deleted story from VNL is still available on msn.com

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A survivor’s guide to outing your rapist online

Before I begin, I must say that it is NEVER a survivor’s responsibility to alert the public to a dangerous person who lurks among them. However – it is an option that a survivor may enact at any point along his or her recovery. That said let’s dive in!

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Reasons you should believe rape survivors

In my court hearing against rapist Aaron Lamb this past week, he called his ex-wife to the stand as a witness. Lamb also made reference to another person I had considered a friend, a fellow feminist, and an ally in the fight against rape culture. Third, he referenced a friend who had for a time in 2017 helped me to escape my marriage to a mortally-violent man. It breaks my heart that despite all the awareness spread by movement like #MeToo and #TimesUp that still some people (even people close to a survivor) still stubbornly and with great cruelty choose to side with the rapist instead of the people he has victimized.

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Lamb lies in court

When it comes to getting justice for rape survivors – the amount of time, effort, and emotional turmoil we are subject to is ridiculous. Were it not so traumatic, I would find it laughable.

Rapist Aaron Lamb
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The final hour

In this final hour as I await my car and driver to transport me to the Cass County Courthouse, I feel butterflies bouncing around in my empty stomach. I spent the morning vomiting foam due to anxiety over facing rapist Aaron Michael Lamb in court. I am nervous… but I am not afraid.

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Insult to Injury

This article from Bitch Media is so good I felt the need to share it here in its entirety. You can also view the original post here.

Who’s Left out of the Picture When We Talk About Traumatic Brain Injury?

by Sarah KishpaughPublished on September 6, 2018 at 10:20am

A woman in profile with a colorful brain (Photo credit: Christos Georghiou)

This article appears in our 2015 Fall issue, Blood & Guts. Subscribe today!

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