Transactional Relationships – some personal anecdotes

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I want to help,” he said handing over a stack of cash. “But I don’t want to get involved.” 

I can think of no better example of unconditional love – giving with the only expectation that the gift be used for good and the betterment of one’s current situation. In this example, he wasn’t expecting any sort of favor or a more-intimate relationship. He didn’t give explicit direction on how to spend it. He gave the gift freely without strings attached – only that he wants my life to get better. This is the exact opposite of transactional love.

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The Body Keeps Score

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I have a friend who see themselves in the worst way. It puzzles me because over the years, this friend has been kind, generous, thoughtful, and selfless in ways that have delighted me. This friend thinks they have done something horrible to hurt me. And even though I have memory issues, my body remembers when someone has hurt me before.

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Please consider supporting the YWCA of Cass Clay

It’s my birthday month and I have many goals, hopes, and wishes. One of those is to drum up support for the YWCA Cass Clay. This nonprofit is near and dear to my heart. The staff and volunteers give so much of themselves to create a compassionate, caring, and healing environment for vulnerable women and children in my community. Please consider making a contribution to my fundraiser for the YWCA – every bit helps ❤

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The Choices We Make

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Every day brings choices…

and over time, these choices define us.

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“Only” a house

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Coming Soon: “Transactional Love”

Transactional Relationships

Love comes in many forms. Author C.S. Lewis wrote about the “four loves” he learned of via his study of Greek wisdom – storge, philia, eros, and agape. Love can also be expressed in a variety of ways. Gary Chapman wrote about this in his best-selling book “The Five Love Languages.” But this post is not about the “four loves.” Nor is it about the expression of love This entry is about the bastardization of love – also known as “transactional love.”

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Let love be stronger

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I was never your cure.

I was never your cure. I am your addiction.

You hurt me far too many times, I could mention

After it has all been done and said –

You thought you could leave, but I’m still in your head.

 

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Feelings can get you

August 5, 2018 @ 2:16 a.m.

It’s awful the way feelings can get you. A person could go about life just fine without them. Some folks do it for days or weeks at a time. Others can manage to pull that trick for months or even years. But eventually, those feelings will catch up to you. It’s the good ones that find a way to crack the shell of numbness – that safe barrier between yourself and genuine emotions. But once they get through the door, all the other feelings come flooding in too.

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